When you start going out with someone, it’s usually all fireworks and rainbows — it’s everything you’ve always dreamed of and then some. But one day, you may start having doubts about the relationship, and it’s often for a reason. Are you sure your love is true? What about your partner’s feelings? Are they faking it?
Let’s try and figure out the red flags of fake love.
1. No more sparks
People can be attracted to each other, but this does not necessarily mean sparks are flying between them. How can one be sure there is that “spark” anyway? If you have a strong gut-twisting feeling that usually acts up when your partner is not around and then immediately goes away as soon as you’re with them — that’s a spark. And if your relationship lacks this feeling, then what you’re going through is probably not true love.
2. No more compliments
We all need compliments from our soul mates to feel loved, appreciated, and respected. Compliments can instantly improve mood and boost self-esteem, especially when they come from the heart. So if you suddenly stopped getting compliments from your partner, then perhaps you should take a closer look at your relationship.
3. Being ignored
We all sometimes need to have some alone time, even in a relationship. But when a partner demands too much personal space, this should be your wake-up call. No matter how busy your partner is, they should have time for you since you are now a part of their life. That’s what true love is.
4. Communication issues
When you start having bad comms with your loved one, this issue requires your immediate attention. How many times were you simply too afraid to say something to your partner because you thought that they might misunderstand you? How many times did it seem that you could not reach them with words? That’s just not how true love works, and you should accept the bitter truth — this relationship is unlikely to have a future.
5. No future together
Speaking of future, if your love is true, you probably cannot imagine your life without each other. And it’s pretty normal for people in love to discuss future plans and dreams. You need to understand where you stand. Does your partner even want to be with you in five-ten years? What about kids? Maybe a house in the suburbs? If they wave it off, well, it’s yet another sign that your love is nothing more than a fake.
A good relationship relies on maintaining a balance between doing your own thing and supporting your partner. Sometimes, however, this balance gets thrown out the window when your supposed loved one takes away too much of your personal time and makes you feel bad if you refuse. This kind of manipulative behavior is a surefire indication that it’s time to look for a new partner.
7. Unreasonable jealousy
Trust issues may be the most common and easy-to-spot signs for fake love. What does it say about your partner if they constantly suspect that you’re keeping secrets from them or even get jealous over the smallest signs of attention from other people? This deep-seated insecurity indicates severe trust issues. This behavior may turn into something really weird, like monitoring your calls and messages, which is never a good sign.